If you are reading this, then you might be considering your options regarding your relationship. Separation is never easy and there is no fast track through the process.

Those dreams you had for a long future together have shifted and you now find yourself in an ever evolving situation. Change can be fearful, suddenly the future is going to be different and you wonder how you will navigate this journey.

If the separation is amicable, then the child will have a better experience as they see their parents working together to find sustainable agreements.

If the separation is difficult, and let’s face it, most times separation is sad and anxiety provoking as it is a matter of grief and loss, then the child may experience feelings of sadness and anxiety.

It is important to approach separation with care and consideration.

Here are some steps for consideration.

1. Reflect on your feelings: Take some time to understand your own emotions and thoughts
2. Open communication: If possible, try and discuss your feelings with your partner, effective communication is crucial in all aspects of separation
3. Consider counselling: If you feel there may be a way of resolving your conflicts, consider counselling for yourself and or with your partner. An important point to consider is if there is domestic and family violence, you feel unsafe, you have been abused, then couples counselling is unlikely to resolve anything and may put you further at risk
4. Legal Advice: If you are seriously considering ending the relationship, it may be wise to consult with a lawyer to understand the legal implications and steps involved in the process.
5. Support System: Friends and family can offer emotional support, and sometimes a different perspective on the situation
6. Self-Care: Take care of yourself physically and emotionally during this challenging time. Engage in activities that bring you comfort and peace.

I offer a free 15-minute phone call to begin the process to help you start thinking about a constructive way to move forward. Appointments can be online, or in person.